Effective Ways to Re-Build Self-Esteem

Effective Ways of Re-Building Your Self-Esteem

Even the most confident of people experience times when their self-esteem takes a battering, times when they need to look at effective ways of re-building their self-esteem, confidence and sense of self-worth. Rejection, negative feedback and lack of control can all influence how we feel about ourself and significantly affect how we value ourself. Being rejected by our partner, let go of by our employer, failing to achieve an important personal goal, feeling inadequate in some way, can all serve to make us doubt ourself, particularly if several of these experiences happen together.

Let’s look at some effective ways of re-building your self-esteem:

- Let hypnotherapy help. Some experiences can reactivate memories of previous times when you failed or lost control of a situation. When you recall the feelings of shame, dread, and low self-esteem that accompanied the experience they can influence how you behave in a present-day situation. Hypnotherapy helps you deal with the original experience, put it in context, perhaps understand the part it played in your past. You become able to acknowledge that the person you are today has healed and learned from those past experiences. Thus you are able to move forward with enhanced self-esteem, improve the way you value yourself, your confidence and self-belief.

- Take time to deal with stress and learn to relax. Low self-esteem is often a symptom of being over tired, working too hard, having too little personal time. At those times personal resilience, clear thinking, positive outlook are often put under serious strain and self-doubt can creep into your thinking. Learn to take regular breaks, take healthy food and drink, schedule in exercise, fun, companionship. Remember the reason you work so hard is to enjoy a better quality of life. Do things that support that end result and your self-esteem will consequently improve.

- Become more assertive. Hypnotherapy can help to improve your ability to speak up and say how you feel, become clearer about what you want to say. Learning to verbalize your thoughts and feelings can help you value your opinions and your right to be heard. Often people are surprised to discover that when they do speak up they are listened to and respected for it. Their self-esteem grows and becomes stronger as a consequence.

- Commit to doing things that you enjoy, that you are good at, that give you positive feedback. Work may simply be the means by which you support your life. You may be tied because you need the job, the income. Some people are paid so well that they cannot afford to leave their high-earning job. Ensuring that other areas of your life provide satisfaction and fulfillment is an important way to invest in your self-esteem. Introduce time for a viable hobby, interest, activity or role that provides you with good feedback and a positive sense of purpose.

- Shed negative influences from your life. Mixing with people who do not share your values can reinforce your low self-esteem. People who are judgemental, superficial, highly critical can bring a debilitating influence into your life. Negative friends can gradually be dropped by your deciding to become less available. Critical family members can have their ability to influence and affect minimised by seeing them infrequently or only on occasions when others are present.

Appreciate that you can take responsibility for your life and the way you allow others to impact and affect you. As you start to take control you immediately reinforce your self-worth. This supports your determination to maintain your commitment to good self-esteem and a positive quality of life.

Susan Leigh is a Counsellor and Hypnotherapist who works with stressed individuals to promote confidence and self belief, with couples in crisis to improve communications and understanding and with business clients to support the health and motivation levels of individuals and teams.

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