The 7 Habits Of Highly Effective Cheaters

Want to cheat on your partner and get away with it? Its not as easy as you think.

However, according to Croydon Private Investigator Jorge Salgado-Reyes a man who specialises in catching people at it there are certain things you can do to reduce your chances of being found out:

(1) Get a pay-as-you-go phone: mobile phone records are now the #1 way cheaters get caught. Pay-as-you-go means no itemised bills and, if you delete flirty texts and your call records, youll cover your phone tracks.

(2) Give your lover a fake name: suspicious partners are likely to go through your phone contacts, but theyre unlikely to pay much attention to someone of your gender, so store your lovers number under a fake name of your own sex.

(3) Dont say youre working late: two reasons: firstly, its the oldest line in the book, secondly, if youre always working but not bringing home more money, its going to raise suspicions.

(4) Get a friend on board: a night out with a mate is the perfect cover story. Get a trusted friend to help cover your tracks by providing regular alibis.

(5) Treat your partner the same way: people who are being unfaithful tend to start treating their partners differently. They either turn off their affection or they overcompensate and act more affectionately (e.g. flowers for no reason, when they hadnt done that in years).

According to Jorge, unless the cheater is a sociopath, he or she will treat their partner differently. But, its all a question of degree: some people have far more self-awareness and self-control better actors, basically - and theyre the ones that are best at hiding affairs.

(6) Dont change your appearance: when someone starts an affair, theyre often tempted to dress differently or take more care over their appearance. If this is combined with acting differently towards your partner, its increases the suspicion that somethings going on.

(7) Deny everything: love can make fools of us all and most of us want to believe the best of the person we love. Without concrete evidence and faced with a resolute denial, your partner can often be convinced that its all in his or her head.

Do these seven things and youll hide many of the most common signs of cheating.

However, will you still get away with it?

According to Jorge Salgado-Reyes, in my line of work, Ive learned two things about infidelity. Firstly, Ive seen the hurt and suffering experienced by the victims. Secondly, Ive seen how difficult it is to hide an affair.

And his real advice for cheaters?

Dont do it. Its likely to destroy your relationship, cause lasting damage to your partner, and your kids if you have any, it will create resentment thatll linger and youll be burdened by feelings of guilt its just not worth it.

Ask yourself would I do this if I knew Id be caught. If the answer is no, dont do it.

"Because, if you do cheat, and your partner hires me, you will be caught!

ENDS

For more information or to arrange an interview, contact Jorge Salgado-Reyes at Salgado Investigations on 02086869657 or 07817406410 (mobile) or email: jorge@salgadoinvestigations.com

Jorge Salgado-Reyes is happy to make himself available for expert comment on any aspect of private investigation.

Date: Sep 15 2007 10:42PM
Category: SOCIAL ARTICLES