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Date: 03rd Aug 2008
"The secret show of low self-confidence during the lazy days of summer"
It is now July and those hazy, lazy days of summer, weather permitting, are ideal times for doing nothing, either on annual holiday or at weekends. This could also be time for the secret show of
low self-confidence during the lazy days of summer to creep up on you
And yet, for all to many of us, we are so used to absorbing information, working against the clock, commuting and just dealing with life that we are unable to totally unwind or relax.
Relaxation is a skill that can be learned just like any other.
It is more than just a skill; it's a natural state that is why we are called human beings instead of human doings. There is nothing wrong with relaxing; it does not need to lead to low self-confidence.
Many people contact me with a feeling that life should be better than this. It transpires that their life could indeed be better. These same people are surprised when I suggest that you could achieve more by doing less.
If you are constantly keep a muscle under tension or strain it will ache and eventually fail.
It needs periods of rest to remain in good working order. This holds true for your entire being, your mind, body and spirit. You must take time out to relax.
Relaxation does not mean lazing on a settee watching television.
That can in fact be the exact opposite of relaxation, especially if the programmes are full of bad news, violence, or crime. My approach to helping clients relax is to show them how to switch off completely, how to do nothing except enjoy their "now" moments and how to let go of the many thoughts that may intrude.
You can be amazed how easy this is. You may wonder why nobody ever explained this to you before. You may be even more surprised when you discover how your energy levels are higher after proper relaxation. I recommend daily meditation too. I like to also teach my clients some very enjoyable techniques that they can use at any time. So watch out for the secret show of
low self-confidence and just relax.