BEING A DOORMAT IS NO FUN!

BEING A DOORMAT IS NO FUN!
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Date: 16th Apr 2018

Doormats have a vital function providing your business & personal life with a world filter to get rid of all the crap that lands at your doorstep. If you're the Company/Family doormat - there is hope


BEING A DOORMAT IS NO FUN!

Being the Department or Family Doormat is no fun!

People take advantage of your good nature & dump their work load on you, volunteer you for the worst jobs, use your precious time asking for advice that will help them, not you. They walk all over your feelings because they consider theirs more important than yours.
Why do some people let others walk all over them? It’s not necessarily that they have low self-esteem (although that may be a factor), it’s because they are wired to ‘GIVE’. By the time we become adults and have a job, a career, a family we have established our set of values and only a life-changing event will alter them. Our values determine how we behave. At this stage in our lives, if we are a ‘GIVER’ it is very hard to re-wire and convert to be a ‘TAKER’. How would that serve us? Poorly, I suspect as we would be working against what makes us tick. Going anti-clockwise instead of clockwise!

There are two outcomes for ‘EXTREME GIVERS’

• Burnout – they give so much of themselves that they become unfit, mentally &/or physically for the role they love doing.
• Low self-esteem - they give so much they become vulnerable & a target for even the weakest ‘TAKER,’ who will manipulate them.

So you’re an incurable GIVER?

You want to keep GIVING but don’t want to become a Doormat. Here’s good news for you! You can carry on GIVING, even give more than you do now. You can take on more jobs, take on more roles, listen to more people etc. You just need to GIVE differently!

Instead of giving selflessly (this is reserved for the likes of Mother Teresa), give to get something back. Don’t sell your soul, barter with your happiness. Take on more work, but make sure it’s a task that you will get some pleasure from, something that aligns with your values. It’s OK to reward yourself.

Take on extra jobs for the good feeling it gives you or the opportunity it provides to do something you really enjoy. Look for the reward and feel good about it. There’s no need to feel like a rough coir Doormat choked up with other people’s discarded mud. You can feel like a soft, silk, luxurious Persian rug.

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