Stepping right out of my comfort zone
In the spirit of trying something new and challenging myself, recently I stepped right out of my comfort zone and accepted an opportunity to have my 4Sight filmed for 4NTV. I don’t know about you but I don’t like having my photo taken – I love taking photos – but rarely selfies! However, I should mention that I did enjoy having my portrait taken by Tanya Lloyd as she put me at ease and made the session good fun :) Similarly, I loved filming my children when they were little but, as long as I can remember, I’ve always shied away from being filmed myself…
I remember the few times that I have been filmed and the discomfort of watching the films afterwards. I can probably count them on one hand: a couple of times as a teenager while competitive swimming, a dress rehearsal of a dance show just over 10 years ago. I actively avoided a development workshop for years as I’d heard it involved being filmed while speaking and then having your presentation skills critiqued!
But, I was offered the chance to have my 4Sight filmed and I accepted… and then I started worrying.
What if… the talk doesn’t ‘work’ when it’s not live?? The ‘talk’ in question is highly interactive and involves audience reflection and interaction – and has always been well received whether as part of a larger workshop or as a 20min 4Sight.
What if… the audience on the day (including Brad Burton!) doesn’t like the talk?
– what if… they think it’s a sales pitch?
– what if… they think this is not the right kind of talk to be filmed?
– what if… they think it’s not good enough…???
(let alone what would it be like to watch it afterwards and know other people could watch it…!)
I tried tackling the first ‘what if..?’ by asking someone who’d been filmed previously…
Rachael Chiverton said it would be fine; I decided she was just being nice…
(After we’ve decided on a belief (helpful or unhelpful), the ‘way it is’ – we look for evidence to back up that belief and ignore evidence to the contrary…)
I spoke to Sam Pratt…
He said it would be fine; I decided he was just being nice…!
So, on the day… despite knowing the talk is normally well received, and wearing clothes I’m used to speaking in to be as comfortable as possible (although it was probably a bit too hot that day!), I shook like a leaf!
I shared how nervous I was and had great support from everyone involved (thank you!)
And…it all went…OK – I think..! – I haven’t seen the result yet and I will be nervous about pressing play once it’s available…
“Everything you want is on the other side of fear” ― Jack Canfield
Coach – coach thyself!
[misquoting Luke (4:23)]
Looking back I could/should have coached myself through this situation – to tackle ‘head on’ the things that were worrying me. For example, I could have expressed my concern about the talk format with the people I was most worried about(!) (e.g. Brad or Michael Nagles), as soon as I started thinking about it, before travelling to the filming location…
My advice to myself (and others) is:
Figure out what exactly it is that you are afraid of and tackle it ‘head on’, up front!
If you’re worried about speaking in front of a particular audience – set yourself up for success by mentioning it to them ahead of time.
Bearing in mind the quote above, if something is scaring you - it's probably THE thing you need to do to move forwards…
See my video 4Sight
The finished video is now up on 4NTV and you can see it for yourself: Meet the best you
So far it's been viewed over 100 times, had 5 thumbs up and no thumbs down (don't be tempted!) and one nice comment, so phew, it seems to be going down OK. So that wasn't so bad, why not get out of your comfort zone and next time there's an invite to film YOUR 4Sight, put your name forward!